Mindfulness in Everday Life
Today is a ‘blah’ day. They don’t come around as often for me as they used to… Definitely used to feel ‘blah’ more often than not! But it is a ‘blah’ day nonetheless and I am totally okay with that.
In my journey of self-discovery this year I thought that I should force myself out of bad moods. I was trying to push all negative feelings aside and only experience positive emotions. I thought that being upbeat and perky all the time was a quality that I would like to have (those who know me would scoff at the idea! Amanda! Upbeat and perky! Pfft!). I quickly learnt that this is a fast-track way to emotional suppression, definitely not a cool thing.
A lot of people are brought up to believe that experiencing anger or feelings of sadness are wrong. We are told as children (especially teenagers) to “Snap out of it”, “Cheer up!” and “Stop moping around!”. Suppressing negative emotions rather than dealing with them as they arise doesn’t make them go away it just makes them sink deeper down within you. Eventually you will have so much negative emotion built up within you that you will not know how to deal with it and that can result in depression and other health complaints.
I read in a magazine article recently about mindfulness. Mindfulness is about being aware of what is happening in the present on a moment by moment basis, while not making judgements about whether we like or don’t like what we find. It’s about recognising and accepting our emotions so that we able to be aware of what causes us to feel a certain way and how we can deal with it.
Rather than pushing aside feelings of sadness we should recognise our sadness and understand it. We can only experience true happiness if we truly know what sadness is. Rather than suppressing anger we should allow that anger to be felt so that we can rid it from our system (as long as we are not hurting ourselves or others in the process). Every emotion has its place and we should allow each to be felt equally.
So today is a ‘blah’ day. And I know that once the feeling of ‘blah’ is over tomorrow will feel even more awesome because of it.
Do you often suppress your feelings of sadness, anger or frustration?