In this post I’d like to get a little deep. I want to probe you. No, not like an alien abduction type probing but a mental probing. I want to get you thinking about your attitude and how your thought patterns can hinder your success in weight loss. Actually, these types of thoughts can hinder any type of success! So I’ve put together some ideas on how you can simply and easily turn these thought patterns around. These are things that work well for me and I am confident they will work for you too.
The Exercise Hater
I know this type well! This was me! I hated, loathed and avoided exercise at all costs because I hated it so much. I know now that I hated it because I felt like I failed at it. I didn’t feel like I was any good and when you don’t feel like you are good at something then obviously it’s unenjoyable and you don’t want to persevere.
Firstly, it takes some time to get used to exercise. Like most things you try in life, you won’t be a natural the first time you try it (unless you are some sort of super-freak). But in order to lose weight you will at some point need to exercise.
So, how do you turn your exercise dread into exercise excitement? To begin with, you need to recognise your internal language. You might be saying things in your head like, “Oh I HAVE to go exercise now. Great” or “I’m not looking forward to this – it’s going to hurt and it’s going to be hard”. These are all negative thoughts.
Try instead saying to yourself, “I’m exercising because it will bring me closer to my goal”, “I’m exercising because it makes me feel good” or visualize yourself after your session and how good, strong and accomplished you feel. Once you break that mental barrier you will be virtually unstoppable!
The “I Wisher”
Another one I relate to. See if you recognise this scenario – You’re walking down the street/laying on the beach/sitting on the bus and you see a girl with great legs in a short skirt/toned arms in a spaghetti strap top/perky cheeks (of the bottom variety) in tight jeans and you sigh and say to yourself, “I WISH I looked like that”. Go on, be honest. I know I have had that thought about a million and fifty times. It happens to the best of us. But guess what? These thoughts are negative because they imply that you don’t have the ability to look the way that you want to look. When you think this way you are practically sending a message from your brain to your body that says, “See that, body? You will never look like that, no matter how hard you try, so let’s keep on wishing”.
New flash – wishes don’t come true. Sorry. There’s just no such thing. Only hard work and determination will get you anywhere in life so stop wishing and start changing.
Change the “I wish” thoughts to “I can’t wait thoughts”. “I can’t WAIT til I look like that!” or “It’s going to be so great when I can wear a skirt like that!”. This implies that you WILL find success. But remember what I said – only hard work and determination will get you there.
The Healthy Food Resenter
“Why can SHE have chocolate everyday and I can’t?”, “I am so OVER eating salads” or “God, I’d kill for some chips”. Yep. These are familiar too, I bet.
For your own sanity just stop thinking about what other people are eating. Please. It’s not worth your energy. Everybody has different bodies – some people will eat fast food everyday and stay as thin as a stick but for most of us we need to stick to a healthy, nutritious diet if we want to lose weight.
Try to embrace this delicious new way of eating. Tell yourself things like, “I’m eating this not because I HAVE to but because I WANT to. It makes me feel good, it gives me energy and it is helping me achieve my weight loss goals”. Again, it’s about changing those negative thought patterns so that you can allow success into your life.
If you are able to follow the advice above your weight loss journey will be more bearable and an overall positive, life-changing experience.
Do you experience any of these negative thoughts? How do you combat them?